Relationships

The One Thing an Abuse Victim Needs to Hear
Abuse victims/survivors go through enormous amounts of trauma, and it sometimes seems as though we may never see them get out, let alone heal. It can be discouraging for the loved ones who are helplessly watching from the outside. They want to help, but they...

The Root of Relationships
God created in each one of us a deep desire to connect with others. Then why is it often so hard? Relationships take work, even the ones that are unconditional (like the relationships we have with our children – or should have with them). They all...

Forgiving the Unforgivable
Do You Cringe Thinking About Forgiving? Like many other things that come out of the Bible, forgiveness is a concept that often gets twisted. It gives many of us a bad taste in our mouths for things that God calls us to (church, love, respect, submission,...

In Need or Irresponsible? Are You Helping Someone Avoid Responsibility?
There is a distinct difference between someone in need and someone that is irresponsible. Someone who is in need is the person who lacks control over their situation, and has often run out of options. Someone who is irresponsible is the person who often makes...

Parenting with a Narcissist
There is a very good reason that I didn’t title this post “Co-Parenting with a Narcissist”. Anyone who is in the process of parenting with one, whether together or not, knows that it is more often a counter-parenting situation. It’s not...

Does God Approve of Divorce in Cases of Abuse?
This is a very real question and causes worry among Christians who are stuck in an abusive marriage and don’t know what to do. The individuals who want to do right by God are not the ones being abusive, but instead are the ones being abused. ...

How to Keep Your Heart Soft in a Hard World
Keeping your heart soft does not mean keeping it unprotected. Watch over your heart with all diligence, for from it flow the springs of life. Proverbs 4:23 You’re allowed to guard your heart, and you should, because a soft heart is easy to penetrate. It...

How to Move Forward After Abuse
So, here I am, writing about my abuse. I’ve been “out” of my abusive situation for a little over two years at this point now. Since abuse is what I most commonly write about, it may seem as if I am stuck, like I can’t or won’t...

The Scarlet Letter of Divorce
Forever an Outcast? I am divorced, and I will forever be branded with the scarlet letter “D”. Within the Christian community, this is a hard one because it’s not a black and white situation like we wish it could be. Yes, the Bible makes it...

How God is Using Me to Break an Abusive Family Cycle
[this post contains affiliates] Why Abused People Abuse People Some of you may be unfamiliar with how abuse can be a reoccurring family issue, something that’s passed down. You’d think that a child who was abused would want to do anything...